If you’re spending a lot of time and energy thinking about a guy, you might be alarmed to hear that it makes you less attractive…even if he doesn’t even know you’re thinking about him!

You have less energy for the other things in your life – the passions and people that made you the person he was attracted to in the first place. You go from the carefree, spirited woman you are to a fearful, worrying creature. Believe it or not, a man can sense when you’re doing all this internal acrobatics about him. But telling yourself to stop thinking about him isn’t so easy.

You need a two-pronged approach: a way to stop yourself from focusing all your attention on one man too soon…and a Tool to boost your self-esteem so that you’re being your most attractive you.

WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T STOP DATING Once you’ve found a man you think is a potential keeper, it’s tempting to clear out your calendar for him and not even consider other dates.

But this is exactly what makes you become fearful and worried about whether he’s going to call and what’s going to happen next.

Result: you can’t stop thinking about him, and he’ll pick up on the fact that you’re hinging on his every move.

That’s why you absolutely need to keep connecting with other men and going out on dates with them.

When you do, you’re immediately taking the pressure off both you and the guys you’re seeing.

You start to think about him all the time, you begin to worry that you might mess things up, and you’re constantly wondering what he’s thinking about you.

You talk about him with all of your friends, dissecting his every move.

But there’s no harm in it, because he knows nothing about this – right? OVER-THINKING CHANGES YOUR VIBE When you think about a man too much, several things happen.

Emotionally, you become drained from all the analyzing. Because you start hanging your self worth on whether or not things will work out with this one guy.