RELATED: 10 Things Your Husband's Friends Won't Tell You4.He wants to share celebrations with you, not struggles.

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He needs to feel he can and actually do it, or else he can't be in a lasting relationship with its inevitable challenges.5.

He tells you he wants a future, but only while on a high.

If you've heard this exclusively when he's drunk—whether from booze or accomplishments—it doesn't count.

"He never does thoughtful things, like buying your favorite scone on the way to your house," says dating coach Laurel House, author of the forthcoming RELATED: 11 Things That Mean More to Men Than 'I Love You'2.

He picks up every tab and takes you shopping for fancy things, but out of sight, out of mind.

He shows you off at parties and then leaves you to mingle. It's his behavior afterward that's telling, though."The guy who won't commit seems to forget to spend time with you during the majority of the party," says House. He always wants to something, not focus his attention on you.Your date nights are at extravagant restaurants, not at home just hanging out."He prefers to decompress alone and not include you in life's day-to-day," says House.Committed couples want to be together most of the time.If he doesn't involve you in morning runs and grocery shopping, "you're not part of his real life," says House.