Dating she needs space
by Various DJs "I need space." "I think we should spend some time apart." "I'm feeling smothered." These are fairly common lines from women. We recently had a very interesting and insightful discussion of this topic on the So Suave Discussion Forum. The new guy becomes associated with spontaneity, fun, laughter, etc.
However, make sure the "space" you give her is on your terms, not hers. Usually it's a nice way of saying, "I don't want to hurt your feelings, you are nice and all, but the spark is gone.
If your availability is the issue, don't be too quick to respond when she is ready for you. I am bored or unhappy and want to find something new." Aurora Don A relationship needs to work kind of like a rubberband to be successful.
Alternatively, if your relationship is over, she may very well ask you to come back if she finds out that you are dating someone else -- particularly if you begin dating someone else before she finds a replacement for you. If a person is getting all the closeness they need from a relationship they will ALWAYS get to a point where they pull away some for a little bit... IF the other person feels threatened by this NATURAL and NORMAL behavior they will often try to regain that closeness again. Learn this concept and a woman will snap right back in no time at all.
Standard response: you get insecure, pursue her, everything gets heavy between you two, things are not light and lively, you and her stop having fun.
Then you have to cease any contact with her unless she starts it. It's basically over, so you don't waste your time with any more involvement from here on out.
For the chance you might have a future together, you're going to have to re-establish yourself as a gushing spring of spontaneity, laughter, fun, etc.
The 7 Signs a Woman Wants to Be Approached All this is predicated on the assumption (redundant?
jeez...) that things were sunshine and light and now aren't.
If you were as you were before, then she's made a decision and you're not changing it. Tesuque Red Don't be precipitous in declaring the relationship over.