There is always someone out there who is more educated, more professionally accomplished, more physically attractive and more otherwise attractive than you are, no matter who you are.There is nothing wrong with it, and this is just life.

Your mission should be not being the best out there at any costs but making the most out of what you have, and being the best person that can be considering all the circumstances of your life, and all your great qualities as well as limitations.

Nobody can take the opportunity to do just that from you.

If you are too short, or if you have some physical disability or if no matter how hard you try, you can’t get that GMAT score to get you to the best school, you might not be able to do much about those natural limitations.

But there is a lot you can do to improve other aspects of who you are – your style, your manner of communication, your sense of humor, and your level of fitness among other things.

As I point out in my audio program “20 Laws of Successful Relationships”, being jealous of your partners’ ex and comparing yourself to an ex is pointless and even harmful to your own self-esteem and your present relationship.

Wondering if that person who was in your partner’s past was better than you, more attractive than you and had a better romantic time and emotional connection with your current partner than you do is unhealthy for many reasons.

This kind of jealousy and comparison would make you come across as insecure and thus unattractive and also as plainly annoying to your partner. Instead of focusing on the present and enjoying your own dating situation and your relationship, being hung up on what your dating partner did before he/she even met you will literally drive you crazy and prevent you from making the most out of your own relationship.

Luckily, there are several, simple and proven to be effective ways you can overcome this issue and liberate yourself from being jealous of our partner’s ex(-es): This is just the nature of life.

And as long as you do what’s in your power to improve yourself, you should feel good about yourself.